Showing posts with label public speaking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label public speaking. Show all posts

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Fear of Public Speaking - Burn the Butterflies in your stomach!

0740 hrs, Monday morning. I was getting prepared to read the thought for the day, followed by the morning prayer to the entire convent school (approx 2000 students, from Kindergarten to class 12th). My hands and legs were shivering to the extent that I started imagining myself collapse on the stage. This imagination led to fumbling, mispronunciation, stammering, perspiration (in the month of December) and in reality, a disaster. Well, I reached class late, as the principal obviously wanted to 'appreciate me for my skills as a speaker'. Guess what...instead of repremanding and shouting at me, she shared few tips on how I can confront an audience fearlessly.

I started putting these tips to use and no points for guessing who won most elocutions and debates in school and college. I would like to share few of these tips with you (not tricks), if you still fear PEOPLE while speaking.
  • Prepare your speech several times till you are so comfortable with the content, that you can avoid reading from your notes.
  • Video record your speech while practicing.
  • Chew some gum before your presentation. It helps in relaxing your mouth muscles
  • Do shoulder and neck rolls
  • Know your room (size of the room, use of a microphone required or not, etc...)
  • Go to the restroom before your speech. I know this sounds funny; however, releasing yourself can help in releasing your stress level as well
  • Place your palms under running tap water. The water will ease you of your tension.
  • Look at the mirror and admire the beautiful person you are. If you see only the perspiration, wash your face with running cold tap water. you will feel better.
  • Take a deep breath at least 3-5 times as soon as you see the auditorium getting packed.
  • Remove focus from yourself to the audience...remember they are there to listen to you
  • Remember, the most challenging and crucial time is the first minutes of your speech, so do not start with your speech directly. Start with a personalized story, analogy, audio, video or quote. you will be more relaxed thereafter as the audience will now be on your side.
  • Make the speech conversational, as if you were talking to a group of known folks. Involving them will make them like you more....indirectly you are motivating yourself.
  • When on the stage, use the entire space that has been provided to you. Walk across the stage (not too frequently), so that you cover all sides of the audience.
  • Remember to be enthusiastic. If you are dull, the audience will be dull. You attitude is highly contagious.
  • Picture the audience in their underwear
  • Remember happy moments from your past
  • Listen to the music of your choice
  • Put pictures of your kids / girlfriend / parents / grandchildren in your notes
  • Do not consume caffiene before the speech delivery
  • Shake hands and smile with the audience before the programme
  • Try not to hold the microphone with your hands during the first 5 minutes
  • Make eye contact with the audience. Connect with them. get them to nod their head to acknowledge whatever you say.
  • Locate a friend in the audience, whose smile will encourage you to speak better.
  • The larger the audience, the larger ansd slower your gestures
  • Let your words trigger your actions. Eg. if you are counting, hold out your fingers, etc...
  • While speaking, remember to pause at the right places and stress at the right words.
  • Dress smartly, for the occasion.
  • Do not hold anything in your hands, as you will end up fidgeting with it all the time, resulting in distracting your audience.
  • Lastly, remember, you know a lot more than the audience, that is why you are where you are.

Murphy's law states that if something has to go wrong, it will. The best way to combat this, is to follow the 3 P's - Practice, Practice, Practice. If you fail to prepare, remember, you are prepared to fail.

Importance of English - The Business language

The guy next door looks just so chic and suave. Guess what, I have always seen him dressed in the latest fashion...but I was slightly shaken-up when we exchanged words for the first time. I had accidentally bumped into him at Greater Kailash M-Block market, New Delhi and I asked for being excused; however, his reply was too coarse - 'Andhi hai kyaa...dikhta nahi hai chalte waqt?' (Are you blind? Can't you see when you walk?). That is when all my respect for him died down. After few more incidents of well-dressed people not knowing how to talk, I concluded that looking good is important..however, speaking well is more important.

I still remember the time when I was in school and everyone would laugh at me just because I spoke the language even during break time, while going to school and coming back home, in the sports field, in the gym, just about everywhere, except Hindi classes. Today I realize the importance of having a strong base in English from my primary days, as it is the only business language which reigns supreme.

Being a good communicator does not mean that your English should be excellent; however, if your hold on the language is strong, you stand a better chance of success as you will be more heard. Most youngsters today, believe in communicating in Hindi or their mother-tongue. I had conducted a survey in 2007. The result: 83% freshers / professionals who communicate in a language apart from English, made 99% more grammatical mistakes than the remaining 27% folks who preferred speaking in English. This 27% population was given chances to make business presentations to customers, address town-halls, and needless to say - promotions.

Most grammatical errors crop up when we speak in Hindi / a different language and have to translate the same to English. Eg. "main to wahin tha"..."I was there only". Here only is not required, as stating "I was there" with an emphasis on 'was' means the same thing and is grammatically correct.

While speaking in English, 'Inflection' plays a very important role. Inflection is stressing / laying emphasis on a word in a sentence to bring out the meaning of the sentence.
Eg. My sister stays near California. (not yours, but my sister)
My sister stays near California. (my sister, not parents)
My sister stays near California. (she stays there, she has not gone there for a vacation)
My sister stays near California. (she stays near California, not in California)
My sister stays near California. (California, not Los Angeles)

In Hindi, we use 'bada' (big) to describe an elder brother, tall building, a large cake, a high mountain, etc... The English language has maximum verbs and adjectives and has the largest vocabulary across all languages. That is the reason why words like 'tall', 'large', huge', 'elder', etc...can be replaced with 'big'. The catch here is, that we should know when the synonym of a certain word can be used in a certain scenario, else you change the complete meaning of the sentence.

In India, people have now started communicating in English, hence making it a link language. Keeping this in mind, the Parliament has also recognized the language as an official language in addition to Hindi. English-medium schools are now gaining popularity to the extent that most leaders who have denounced the language, have sent their children to the best convent schools in / outside India.

Generally, standard english today does not depend on accent, but rather on shared educational experience, mainly of the printed language. Present-day English is an immensely varied language, having absorbed material from many other tongues, including Sanskrit. It is the official language of air transport and shipping, the leading language of science, technology, computers and commerce and a major medium of education, publishing and international negotiations.